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It’s frustrating to try to be there for someone who is depressed, often, they don’t let anyone in; just remember that it’s the small things that count. I struggled with severe depression for about five years; my family didn’t know how to handle it and treated it as one of those “phases.” I was never even diagnosed. It would have been much easier to find my way out of the scary, lonely place I was in had they known these simple things. Hopefully, they can be of help to you as well.
- Tell them how disappointed you are in them.
- Tell them they’re bringing everyone else down.
- Tell them it’s all in their head.
- Tell them they don’t have any reason to feel what they’re feeling.
- Blame family problems on their struggle.
- Isolate them.
- Act like everything is okay when it’s not… don’t ignore how much they’re hurting.
- Tell them about the starving kids in Africa and how lucky they are in comparison.
- Compare their situation to your own.
- Threaten them.
- Tell them time cliche things like “time heals all wounds.”
- Remind them that they are loved and have value.
- Tell them time may not heal all wounds, but it does numb them.
- Encourage them to try new experiences, leave the house, spend time with people.
- Remind them of the beautiful world outside of their depression.
- Notice when they try particularly hard to be cheerful, or kind… don’t take that for granted or mistake it as easy.